Single parenting your kid can sometimes offer you with horrible realizations that you are never ready to face.some of these night mares comes face to face while you are travelling to another country. All your insecurities, innate fears as a mama, and what not come haunt you down one by one and make you feel small and meak.
I recently got a chance to visit to another but a nearby country with my five year old and eventhough it has been one of the courageous movei still feel overwhelm by the decision. Tehre are amny ways that help you get adjusted in a new country. apparently, for me it irrational fear of thinsg one after the other.
No country feels romantic:
Parenting your kids alome can take away so much from you. You can be the most romantic person on the face of earth but being all alone with your children can take you away from the intimate feelings. I don’t know if this is exhaustion talking or sheer loneliness but feeling the urge of romanticism just leaves your life once and for all. It can also be the separation that makes it ery hard for yu to have the feeling again for someone else. Therefore, be it Paris, Thailand, or any other country, you will heal slowly and get over the dry spell one day at a time.
Single parenting gets twice difficult in another country:
Kids are made of tantrums and it gets worse when you are visiting another country. The will not feed like they used to, sleep like they used to, neither do they have the same calmness. Therefore, always feel ready for an uncalled for tantrum in the middle of nowhere. Usually with two parents side by side, you kid might be easy to handle and cooperate through out your trip. However, given the circumstances, I feel like kids can easily take advantage of a single parent.
The mid life crisis is just around the corner :
I hated to have a feeling absolute failure in life in a country whrre I thought I left all my worries behind . just like that, my mental crisis appeared out of nowhere and made me feel the worst. I felt like my whole world started crumbling down, breathing just doesn’t feels my thing anymore, and the chest tightness overpowering all other senses of mine. Just then I realized mid life crsis ofte comes out during the foreign visits. No matter how happy you pretend to be, the darkness lngers alongside and make you feel very small.
You will enjoy your hearts out.
Spending time exploring new places with your kid is a blessing in disguise. You will have new cherishing memories that not just you but your kid will also cherish for years to come. Visiting other countries is a blessing that only a few are get to experienced. Use every second of the day to absorb the beauty of this visit and enjoy to the fullest. There is a reason God gave you the child, therefore you must enjoy it and make the best out of every situation. You are the wisest role model of your kid and therefore it is your responsibility to show or unravel a world unknown to your child. Even though, the role of two parents when offered by one can be overwhelming but once you gets pro to it, you, feel much better.
The anger is always in the question:
I am getting very angry these days. I don’t know what is wrong with me but separation has taken out a bitter side of me. Now the trip that is supposed to refreshen my soul , but the anger it just makes me a different person. In other words I feel so much anger building up inside e and somehow this trip is giving these a feeling an outlet. If you feel helpless and angrier than before, it is important to step away for. A while and sort out your emotions.
Conclusion:
I am sharing the 5 realizations I felt during an international trip. I am pretty sure many other parents feels the same while visiting other country. Love every second of the day and love your kids double. Single parenting can be handful but honestly it gets twice better when you go to another country with your child.
